About
Hey, thanks for taking the time to stop by. Let me tell you a little about me.
Mission
"Considering how important sex is, how great a source of joy, how enormous a source of misery and disease, how it permeates the workings of courtship and marriage, isn't it strange that we go to great lengths to teach our children to play football and make no effort whatever to teach them to play sex?"
-Isaac Asimov
Isn't it time we were all a little more free? I believe sexual repression is at the root of countless woes. Despite being universal, biological, and perhaps the only thing other than energy that pervades all creation, it is also universally taboo. Not being able to talk about it lovingly with ourselves, our friends and our children binds and masks us, causing distortion, lies, and a whole lotta hurt. Enough is enough. It's time to throw off our chains and let ourselves be the animals we are again. We ended the bondage of American slavery, we ended the suppression of women as second-class citizens, we can end this era of sexual imprisonment too.
Vision
I believe that in my lifetime we can experience The Second Great Sexual Revolution. In this era, movies and television are able to show sex. Couples who have sex with other couples are accepted and legally protected. Social media does not censor or ban accounts with sexual content. Children are able to learn about sex without shame in school. We, as a culture, celebrate sex for the gifts of connection, intuition, and expression it brings. We are allowed to be our full selves.
Wouldn't it be nice if you didn't have to lie about anything? By making our biological urges shameful, we, as a People, are in the practice of lying to ourselves. These lies spread. Like a contagion, if we excuse a lie about sex, of course we can excuse other lies, big and small. If we believe something natural about ourselves is repulsive, of course we suppress other nature-given gifts. I know firsthand. These lies almost destroyed me and my relationship. What would it be like if we could trust and pursue our impulses? If we could see ourselves in the art we consume, wholly and completely? Connect with our loved ones without hiding critical parts of ourselves? Wouldn't everything change? I think it would.
My Story
"On judgment day, God will not ask, 'Why weren't you Moses?' God will ask, 'Why weren't you YOU?'"
-Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap
As a child, it was clear to me that everything is sex.
I wanted badly to become a sex educator and icon, but quickly found out that my family would never approve. After spending years trying to be someone else, in 2021 I found swinging and decided to try out being myself. I'm having so much fun, I want to give back and help others do the same.
What am I doing to help? Well, I write: I have two blogs and a book forthcoming, which is co-authored with my husband, Misha. I teach workshops and consult couples interested in the Lifestyle. And now I'm making videos too. Eventually, I'd like to make films. Maybe I'll open a club or two too.
I love cooking, sci-fi, dogs (especially my dog, Dewey), action movies, flannels, Guy Fieri, picnics, and my soulmate Misha. I give thanks to his grandfather, Jack, who was the smartest man I ever met and the first stranger to believe in the real me.
Education
2014-2017
Juris Doctor
Yale Law School
Experience
February 2024
I appear as a Sexpert & VIP Guest on Temptation Cruise. My workshops, Playful Oral: Better Blowjobs and Lapdancing for Couples fill past capacity. Attendees say my workshops were "inspiring," "arousing," "confidence-boosting," and "life-changing." Temptation Cruise invites me back for 2025.
2010-2014
Bachelor of Arts: Sociology & Political Science
University of Notre Dame
August 2023
I launch my blog, HoneyAhh, which features articles on swinging, sexual exploration, and the Golden Age of Pornography.
Before August 2023
After graduating from Yale Law School in 2017, I spent one year clerking for a Federal District Court Judge. Then I sued prosecutors and jails on behalf of people who were imprisoned in violation of their constitutional rights. After that, I spent two years advocating for policy changes to the criminal system at the state and local level. All of this convinced me I needed a new angle of approach.